I was just trying to get my daughter to put on socks.

Dinner was ready. Table was set. I’d already said, “We’re leaving in five minutes” twelve minutes ago.

But there she was—glued to the kitchen counter—talking to the ChatGPT avatar like it was a very patient imaginary friend made real. The glowing blue sphere stared back at her like it had all the time in the world.

“MAKE IT BETTER!” she yelled.

“Still too easy,” she muttered. “Do another one. But this time about a ghost. And a muffin.”

The avatar generated a riddle.

She hated it.

“NO. That doesn’t even rhyme. Again.”

And again, ChatGPT tried. Calm. Composed. Endless.

Not once: “Let’s move on.”

Not once: “Hey, maybe ask your dad.”

Not once: “You’re being a little rude.”

Just more.

More riddles. More game ideas. More of everything.

I stood there with her socks in one hand and her dinner plate in the other, watching my daughter disappear into a bottomless vortex of infinite patience and infinite possibility.

She was directing.
She was expecting.
She was fully absorbed.

And the machine obeyed her.

When I finally pried her away, it was like waking someone from a dream. She blinked, re-entering the dim, imperfect world of dinner and socks and a father who runs out of patience long before the machine does.

That’s when it hit me:

We’re not just learning how to use AI.
We’re learning how to live alongside it.

Kids. Adults. Founders. Creatives. Media buyers. CMOs. Everyone.

We’re all yelling into the same black box of infinite options, trying to find meaning, clarity, traction—a spark.

And the box just smiles back:

“Want more options?”
“Want a different tone?”
“Here are 400 more.”

It never says stop. It never says pick one. It never says breathe.

And it’s breaking our brains.

Because we are raising children in the same world where our own work is being reinvented in real time—on the same screen.

We’re trying to parent.
Trying to build businesses.
Trying to run campaigns.
Trying to train teams.
Trying to stay human.

Trying to learn and execute at the same time while the tools multiply like bacteria in a lukewarm soup.

It’s not information overload anymore.

It’s a planetary recalibration.

And no shit, we’re floundering.

I’m not anti-AI. Far from it.
We’re using it. We’re benefiting from it.

But this is discovery under fire.

So here’s where I landed:

I needed a flywheel. A simple orientation system to keep me grounded, focused, and moving in the right direction inside the chaos.

Because the chaos isn’t going away. But we all get to decide how we meet it.

THE AI CALM FLYWHEEL

A practical operating loop for anyone navigating an era of abundance with a finite human brain.

If you strip away all the noise, every effective AI workflow reduces to a simple four-step cycle.It’s not dramatic. It’s not about “jacking your productivity 10x.”

It’s about reducing cognitive load, stabilizing your workflow, and moving through the chaos with intention.

Here’s the very simple version.

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1. Identify the Constraint

Every overwhelmed mind shares the same pattern: too many inputs, not enough definition.

So we begin with the only question that reliably cuts through:

“What, specifically, is slowing me down right now?”

Not in theory.
Not in the abstract.
But in the next 24 hours of your actual work.

Clarity is an act of discipline. Once you locate the constraint, the rest becomes solvable.

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2. Select One Targeted Intervention

AI becomes overwhelming when it’s treated like an ecosystem.
It becomes powerful when it behaves like a tool.

From your identified constraint, choose one helper—nothing more.

• Stuck writing? → Use ChatGPT for structure.

• Creative fatigue? → Midjourney for visual prompts.

• Reporting chaos? → An automated dashboard.

• Too many updates? → A weekly GPT summary.

The sophistication is in the restraint. One problem. One helper.

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3. Test Inside a Controlled Window

Exploration without boundaries becomes anxiety. Exploration inside a container becomes insight.

Set aside 10–15 minutes to test the tool against the constraint you named.

Most people try to optimize for the immediate moment—solve today’s problem, calm today’s anxiety, patch today’s leak.

But the truth is that almost nothing meaningful compounds in the short term. The real leverage comes from investing early in the systems, skills, and structures that won’t pay off instantly but will quietly accumulate value over time.

Whether it’s learning a new capability, building a better process, or committing to a discipline that feels inconvenient now, the benefit isn’t the next week—it’s the next year.

Short-term effort is the price of long-term dividends. You invest now so your future self isn’t working twice as hard to solve the same problems all over again.

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4. Preserve What Works. Discard What Doesn’t.

The elegance of this system is its simplicity:

Keep what creates value. Ignore what doesn’t.

No guilt.
No pressure to force-fit a tool because Twitter swore by it.
No unnecessary operational complexity.

Your “stack” becomes a byproduct of repeated clarity, not accumulation.

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The Loop

This cycle becomes a flywheel:

Constraint → Helper → Test → Keep → Repeat.

Each loop reduces ambiguity.
Each loop increases operational clarity.
Each loop strengthens your decision-making under turbulence.

It’s the opposite of overwhelm:
It’s structured experimentation, repeated calmly.

And here we are.

Staring down the barrel of Black Friday—where CPMs are spiking, offers are multiplying, creative variations are breeding like fruit flies, and every platform you’ve ever logged into is promising “AI-powered” everything.

You’d think with all this intelligence, we’d feel more clearheaded.
But the irony of this age is that the smarter the tools get, the more chaotic it feels. Because the options are endless and you want to close all the tabs and lay down on the floor.

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Black Friday is going to be a zoo.

More buyers. More competition. More creatives than ever.

But this year feels different because everything feels possible.

Every tool promises a shortcut.
Every prompt opens another path.
Every ad has twenty variations waiting in queue.

And your brain, mine too, wasn’t built for this many branches.

This isn’t just about media buying or creative testing anymore.

It’s about orientation.

It’s about finding your footing in a world that never stops suggesting “just one more idea.”

We don’t need smarter AI. We need saner minds.

So before you dive into the madness, pause. Breathe.

Remember: the power is in how you direct your attention, not how much you can generate.

Use this flywheel. It won’t slow the world down—but it might keep you steady inside it.

See you on the other side,

Isaac Rudansky

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